Gain Insight: I Shop When I’m Depressed
Pat Palmeri of Insight Counseling & Psychological Assessment Paris Texas, is here to answer your questions. Use the form below to ask the therapist.
I am a 27-year-old stay-at-home mom with three kids. Two are my fiance “Jon’s”; the littlest is ours together. Sean and I have been together almost six years now.
I need help. I am a very depressed person and have been for many years. I shop and spend way too much—sometimes all of our money—and I don’t know how to stop. Shopping makes me feel happy, and when I’m depressed (which is often), I go out shopping for stuff I don’t even need.
I have even started shopping online for stuff. I feel horrible about this. Jon and I have tried separate bank accounts, but when I’d run low I would just tap right into his. Please help me. I don’t know what to do.
Dear Depressed Shopholic,
I am sure it makes you to feel bad when you find you are running up the family debt. However, you can feel bad and nothing will ever change. It is your behavior that must change. In my opinion, you need to see a psychiatrist and a therapist. I encourage you to do this immediately. From what you described it seems professional help is indicated and you will not get that in this venue.