Gain Insight: Students Need Manners
Pat Palmeri of Insight Counseling & Psychological Assessment Paris Texas, is here to answer your questions. Use the form below to ask the therapist.
I’m a teacher’s assistant at a local school. I never hear please and say thank form the kids who attend school. I have tried to talk to their parents about this but they always side with their kids. Most of the teachers try to remind the kids of their manners. I thought that since we lived in Texas, people would take more pride in being polite and well mannered. Is there anything else we can do to get the point across? Miss Manners
Dear Miss Manners,
If the parents side with the children then you have an up hill battle. You can withhold requests until the child requests it by ‘please and thank you.’ Otherwise, the best you can hope for is they learn from your example because you are consistently using these courtesies. Another thing you could do is to plan with the teacher a class in polite speech and action. At the end, let the kids know that from now on this lesson will be practiced every day throughout the rest of the school year. I don’t know what age child you are teaching. If it’s 6 through 10 you can use reward for the children who are consistently demonstrating the behaviors. You know how that works. A class like this may make such an impression on the children it follows them throughout their lives regardless of what has or has not been learned at home.